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Anonymous asked: hi, so i may or may not be giving a speech semi-soonish and was wondering if you have like a master post/list/link to list/post of proper terminology for reference??? if you do that would be really helpful. sorry if this ask is an inconvenience.


Not an inconvenience at all! I hope I’m not too late in replying, but in case anyone else needed it: 

  • romantic attraction - limerence, the desire to be in a romantic relationship with someone/fantasize about being in a romantic relationship with someone
  • aromantic - someone who does not experience romantic attraction. (Note that some do still experience sexual attraction, but certainly not all.)
  • alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction of any kind, or someone who is not on the aromantic spectrum.
  • aromantic spectrum - anyone who is lithromantic, aromantic, akoiromantic, etc. 
  • akoiromantic/lithromantic - (some people find the term ‘lithromantic’ problematic so akoiromantic might be preferable for a speech) someone who experiences romantic attraction in theory but not in practice. In an actual romantic relationship, their attraction fades.
  • Gray-(a)romantic - someone who is somewhere between aromantic and alloromantic. 
  • demiromantic - someone who experiences secondary romantic attraction but not primary romantic attraction (or in simpler terms: only experiences romantic attraction to people they are already close to/know well). 
  • wtfromantic - someone who does not see the line between romantic and platonic attraction and therefore doesn’t know if they experience romantic attraction. (note that this has a lot of overlap with ‘aromantic’ - a lot of aromantics are also technically wtfromantic, but not all identify as such). 
  • queerplatonic/quirkyplatonic - a relationship that is something outside of, or in between, romantic and platonic. Note that “queerplatonic” is a word to be used only by queer-identified people.
  • zucchini - a silly term some people invented for a queerplatonic partner. 
  • squish - a non-romantic crush. Really, really wanting to be friends with someone. EDIT TO ADD: Also can be used for wanting to be queer/quirkyplatonic partners with someone.

My followers can let me know if there’s anything I missed but I think those are all of the most common terms around here. 

important terms, which are often overlooked

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For Lovatt, though, it often wasn’t these formal speech lessons that were the most productive. It was just being together which taught her the most about what made Peter tick. “When we had nothing to do was when we did the most,” she reflects. “He was very, very interested in my anatomy. If I was sitting here and my legs were in the water, he would come up and look at the back of my knee for a long time. He wanted to know how that thing worked and I was so charmed by it.”
The dolphin who loved me

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Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is the person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are.

(via ellosteph)

Unfortunately, that still is not intimacy. The described feeling is limerence - common for the way how many of us experience being in love. It is craving and hoping for the mutual intimacy, even if this means creating an illusion of its actual presence.

(Source: queerkaitlin, via neointimacy)